I often feel awkward, if not outright apologetic, as a white woman who gave her very white son the middle name of Malcolm after Malcolm X.
I am a pacifist at heart, but I am a follower of both Martin Luther King Jr. and Malcolm X. I am a big fan of the Black Panther Partyâ€™s Ten Point Program (and for Godâ€™s sake, if youâ€™re not familiar with it, stop reading this and go read it now), and I often fantasize about what a Malcolm X-Black Panther alliance could have done, had Malcolm not been assassinated.
My reasons for choosing Malcolm as a middle name go back a long way. They go back to my mother telling me when I was twelve that Malcolm went to Mecca and saw all races getting along and wanted to make that happen everywhere. They go back to hearing Alex Haley speak when I was in high school. They go back to first hearing the Phil Ochs song â€œLove Me, Iâ€™m a Liberal,â€ which starts â€œI cried when they shot Medgar Evers / Tears rolled down my spine / And I cried when they shot Mr. Kennedy / As though Iâ€™d lost a father of mine / But Malcolm X got what was coming / He got what he asked for this time / So love me, love me, love me, Iâ€™m a liberal.â€ They go back to wishing Malcolm were alive every time an unarmed black man is shot by the police. But most of all they go back to this line from a speech of Malcolmâ€™s I read in graduate school:
We didnâ€™t want anybody telling us about Africa, much less calling us Africans. In hating Africa and in hating the Africans, we ended up hating ourselves, without even realizing it. Because you canâ€™t hate the roots of a tree, and note hate the tree. You canâ€™t hate your origin and not hate yourself. You canâ€™t hate Africa and not hate yourself.
I underlined that passage long before I knew Iâ€™d have a son. I underline that passage back when I did hate a lot of where I came from. I still hate some of it, still hate that I had ancestors who were slave owners (even if one of them set his slave free). I still hate that I had ancestors who profited from the labor of enslaved people, even if only directly â€” because really, if you bought cotton in the United States during the era of slavery, you profited from slave labor. (And really, if you bought it afterward, during the era of sharecropping, you shouldnâ€™t feel that much better about yourself).
Malcolm X gave this speech in Detroit just after his home was bombed. I cannot imagine what that is like â€” to have your home with your wife and four young children bombed â€” but I know it is a daily reality for many people.
I canâ€™t pretend to understand the lived experience of African Americans. And I canâ€™t claim not to feel slightly uncomfortable claiming one of their martyrs as one of my heroes.
But he is one of my heroes, and those lines from that speech that I underlined so long ago came back to me when I was pregnant. I didnâ€™t plan to become pregnant, and my son was born out of wedlock in a relationship that many didnâ€™t think well of. But that line came back to me â€” â€œYou canâ€™t hate your origin and not hate yourself.â€ I didnâ€™t want my son to hate himself, and so I didnâ€™t want him to hate his origin, and so I gave him the middle name of Malcolm, the man who taught me that.
We all of us have small, personal stories that run alongside the larger historical ones. Sometimes they intersect, and sometimes they cross pollinate. Sometimes you start out admiring someone for the work he did and end up loving him for one small line. Sometimes you want to support a movement and end up selfishly supporting only yourself.
I get very odd looks from white people when I tell them that I gave my son the middle name Malcolm after Malcolm X. I donâ€™t know what kinds of looks I get from people of color because I live in Iowa, a state where 2% of the population is black and something like 26% of the prison population is black. I visit a prison every two weeks, but even the people I see there are mostly white, because I work with the inmates with the highest level of privilege, and most of them are white, and if you donâ€™t think thereâ€™s something wrong with that, I donâ€™t think I want to know you.
I think a lot about racial justice and the ways in which Iâ€™m not doing enough to achieve it. My sonâ€™s middle name reminds me of a lot of things, from my idiosyncratic personal reasons for choosing it to the larger societal struggles it stands for. But most of all it reminds me that I have to try harder.